How to Get What You Want…From Your Boss

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I manipulate people every day – boss, spouse, friends, Starbucks staff, you name it. That might sound rude or mean, but I have news for you, you do the same thing. Some people might call it being two-faced or disingenuous, and there’s certainly a negative connotation associated with manipulation, some may even say it verges on the edge of coercion. But I like to think I use my power for good and not for evil. I’m not a sociopath – geeze! Here are some tried and true methods you can implement for getting what you want.

  1. Be a Good Human:
    As some wise quote once said, “just be nice.” Yeah, it’s Golden Rule-y, but it’s true. How do you feel when someone gives you a warm, “good morning”, with a smile or says how much they appreciate you? Feels good, don’t it? When you treat others with respect, consideration, and kindness, people generally respond in a positive way. So, to get more from people and have them continue to like you in the process, don’t be like these crazy animals…
  1. Actively Listen:
    It’s underrated, but being a good active listener goes a long way. It shows that you are engaged in the conversation and makes the other person feel like what they are saying is being heard, which helps in relationship building. So what can you do to be a good active listener? Body language – show you’re listening by make eye contact, facing the person speaking with you, and nodding when appropriate. Verbally – ask questions, especially open-ended ones, or paraphrase what was said to demonstrate understanding. Like this…
  1. Reciprocate:
    Reciprocity is a strong factor in human behavior. When you do something for someone they are more likely to feel like they “owe” you and will do something in return. Think, free samples, going out of your way at work to help a coworker, or campaign donations, hmmm. I’m not saying you need to start looking to collect IOUs, but when someone asks you for a little favor or you go out of your way to do something nice for someone else, it’s likely good things will come back to you. What goes around comes around…

So I say, be manipulative and get what you want! Just do it nicely, while listening, and doing for others.  Now that your a master of manipulation, gain more information on how to Move Up in Your Career.

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